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The Elusive Niche

Merriam Webster’s dictionary defines the word niche with the following:

Noun: a place, employment, status, or activity for which a person or thing is best fitted <finally found her niche>

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This idea is why I’ve never been a consistent blogger. Over the past couple of years, most well-meaning people have told me the same thing: “You need to find your niche!” You see, therein lies the problem, my life is anything but specific. Trying to make myself fit in one box is about as productive as trying to guess what will come out of Donald Trump’s mouth next. It simply cannot and will not happen. My life is a glorious mess of the many things I am passionate about: faith, fashion, politics, modeling, friends, pop-culture, technology, acting, and relationships. The problem is this: society tells me that I am not allowed to be involved in all of these areas at the same time.

I need to pick just one passion and be content.

I need to find my niche. 


Take the following examples, all of which have been loudly proclaimed to be in one form or another:

“You cannot be publicly opinionated in politics when you’re in entertainment! You might offend the next casting director who is considering you for a role! Tone it down. “

“Isn’t being a Christian about being humble? Being a model and getting paid to let people plaster your face everywhere is anything but Christian!”

“People who are passionate about technology often are introverted and struggle with forming meaningful relationships, right?”


I could go on. The point is that I really frustrate a lot of people because my life doesn’t make sense to them, it doesn’t fit in their box.

But I’ve finally arrived at the conclusion that I will no longer try to fit into those singular boxes. I will be sharing what God is teaching me, what He has given me. I will push the boundaries. And this blog will serve as a place where I can share my ideas, what I’m learning, and the things that I love with the world . . . be it a political endorsement, a movie review or photo shoot, or just a post about how much the people in my life mean to me. And if I find something else that I love, I’ll post about that too. Because this is my life, crazy as it may seem.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m horrible with grammar (sorry Mrs. Thompson), I don’t consider myself a great writer, and I’m totally scatterbrained.

Here’s the thing, though: I’m so excited about God’s gift of life to us. I just want to explore every possible avenue and share my experiences with the world. Will it be a complete train-wreck? Maybe, but I refuse to spend my life chasing the elusive “niche”.